Saturday, January 17, 2009

It all comes back...

"You reap what you sow"
This is so utterly true! You love and you get loved back. You attack and you face a revolt. Even though this saying is true for most things, I notice a peculiar analogy of this when it come to human relationships.
It is such a good feeling to see people happy together. I like to see people in my day to day life who leave their misfortunes back home and live life king size! There exist another set of people who like to keep their lives complicated and maintain a constant frown even when they see happy faces around.
I see a reflection of these traits in the children from these different homes. Somehow, the happiness or the sorrow the child observes around him in his formative years, rubs on to this innocent kid who then grows up to be a reflection of his parents despite all the distance he maintains after leaving home and starting a family of his own.
Most of my friends are from these "happy homes" and their parents mean the world to them. They make sure they do no wrong that could make their family sad. They feel it somehow. They know what happiness means to them and they simply can't do anything to jeopardize that. Its a win-win situation for all.
Then there are these friends of mine from "unhappy homes". You can feel sorry for them but in this post I won't concentrate on that. Somehow it may feel weird but I think most of these youngsters see enough despair in those "could have been fun" years, that they are somehow never in that state of peace where happiness and sorrow balance each other out. It is not uncommon to find youngsters who aren't even shy about badmouthing their own parents. It is just that they try to move away from the receiving end now that they stand on their own feet. They just lose any faith in those storybook Happy Endings.
This just goes to show how important it is for families to keep away their complications from kids in their formative years. It can easily escape one's imagination but I feel kids are innocent and at the same time are very observant. Ideally they are happy if things around them are even OK. But any unpleasant situation leaves an imprint on their minds which is difficult to erase.
Parents cannot expect their kids to be nice to them if they don't fulfil their duty of keeping their kids happy and as far as possible from their uncomfortable internal issues. The time to share complications should be once the kid matures and understands that everything needn't be perfect for a happy life. But till that time, there has to be a wall that protects him from being helplessly involved. Only in such "unhappy families", one can expect a Happy Ending.